I can be, if they're the right people. The problem is that my definition of a “right person” is very specific, and I find them somewhat hard to find. Yes I can socialise, have a laugh and hold a conversation with anyone when the occasion calls for it. But given the choice, quite often I would sooner go to work, read a book, go to the gym, or socialise online for that matter.

It's just so compelling; I can meet lots of interesting people by just following my ambitions and my interests. I've developed lots of friends through getting out and doing productive things. Through my job, my passion for technology and my interest in business, I find I have strong, long-lasting friendships. The reason is that we often share a common goal or interest that makes the friendship unique. Am I likely to find this by socialising with people I don't know that well? It's like trying to form friendships on Twitter; there are so many better ways of doing it!

Online, I can talk specifically about things that interest me and things that matter to my direction in life. I can talk to people who share these same interests; we can share opinions and offer insights that the other person might not have. I do the same thing when I go to work, when I go to the gym, or even when I read a book in some respects.

My girlfriend often tells me that I'm too private, and that I should socialize more. The thing is, I would if they were the right people! They're very often not, and all too often I feel like such things are a waste of time. Sometimes I feel that maybe I should make more of an effort. But then I think that being authoritarian with my time is what sets me apart. It keeps me informed, allows me to know what my focus is, what my goals are, and the best way to reach them. Some of the most successful people in the world couldn't be where they are without having a similar view.

I don't think that I need to socialise more, I think that I need to improve the way I meet the right people.

What do you think? Do you share my view? Or am I just a geeky introvert that needs to loosen up?

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Comment by Anubis on June 12, 2010 at 6:06pm: I don't talk much unless they are larger more complicated discusions, I am HORRIBLE at small talk. And would rather be reading or gaming as opposed to some jiant social function/party.

I would call my self Anti-Social via LT's deff. as well.

-Anubis

Comment by Adam Colvin on June 4, 2010 at 3:02pm: Yes I'd say I was a humanist too. And I completely agree with LadyTech; I'm much more comfortable in my own company than other people's. I'll work on the TLTR problem too :P

Comment by LADYTECH on June 4, 2010 at 12:37pm: Well let me repair my comment a bit. I don't have a disorder and I don't have a sociopathic personality. I just mean that unless I'm out shopn or out for dinner I prefer not to be around too many people. I'm not a conversation starter and prefer my time alone. I meant antisocial but in a well mannered, don't like to be bothered kinda way. (hope it makes sense) Maybe there's a better word for it than antisocial.

Hey but some here seem to hold true to the Webster's dictionary meaning of Antisocial .

Comment by JS on June 4, 2010 at 12:22pm: Well, I don't know about people person, but I am a humanist.

Comment by LADYTECH on June 4, 2010 at 12:17pm: TLTR but to answer your question. Nope, I've very antisocial.

Comment by Persian Paladin on June 4, 2010 at 10:33am: I don't have a social life.

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