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Comment by yourfindit on April 24, 2009 at 12:54pm

Good thing you were honest with both of them. But in most cases, being honest like that would most likely cost you one of them.

Comment by Stout on April 23, 2009 at 9:25am

thanks alot chanel, that was very well put and i feel the same way. i was just telling a friend yesterday about the situation and how i dont need to be "brutally honest" but honest in the fact that this is what is going on and im not going to try to hide anything. honesty really works the best in the end because no matter what happens...at least you were honest.

Comment by Chanel Veil on April 22, 2009 at 4:53pm

okay!!!!! something to debate about....whe you're talking about a relationship, you can only be genreal about things like this....i think that no matter what you do, honesty will get you far...Not arrogant and unnecerily needed comments...but simply honesty. Be nice about the not so nice things....and enahnce the niceness about the nice things...do not misunderstand me when i say this....if u think that someone looks pretty...gush about it....but don't exagerrate..cuz that makes you seem fake....I don't think that it's about the challenge....girls don't like too much of a challenge..they like knowing that something there is reachable....but before they can even think of u like that....they need to appreciate you...and i think that sweet, charming, good looking is great and all but when you know for fact that someone's gonna be honest about your relationship and that no matter what u can get the truth out from this guy, honesty simply enhances the appreciation....and appreciation becomes like..and like hopefully will turn to love...so i am definetely affirmative for: should honesty be the best thing in a relationship...!!!!!! :P

Comment by Stout on April 22, 2009 at 9:21am

thanks for the comment eric...very true and you get exactly what i am trying to say here. honest is the best policy in more than just dating, i was just using my situation to convey what my message was. im filtering this honesty into the rest of my life now and finding that it really works better than anything else. like you said, "your the one that has to face yourself in the mirror."


and kevin...im finding that the other girl might like this as a challenge, but she is getting tired of it. haha. i have had my share of psychos, you dont even want to know. i might just make a post about her. lol

Comment by Kevin on April 22, 2009 at 8:51am

I agree. I'm always very forward about my casual relationships. If you don't it can come back and bite you in the ass and you can ruin a good thing. I think girls appreciate the honesty, and sometimes it makes them want you more, because it's more of a challenge :)

That can backfire too, because then they will start calling you 5 times a day, and wanting to see you everyday, but that was a rare case. haha.

Comment by Eric L. on April 21, 2009 at 6:31pm

I was in a similar situation years ago... and had similar results.

My question is... why only be honest while dating? Honesty gains respect within you social network, family, and friends, co-workers, and community.

I went through a bad time when my father passed away while I was a teen, being heavily medicated, and not giving a crap what people thought of me, or anything I said or did.... That's when I found out if your just honest with people in general, they'll respect you so much more. Not to say that being honest doesn't have it draw backs, I've lost a few friends, and some of the family wont talk to me, BUT it is me that has to look at myself in the mirror every night not them, If they can't handle the truth, that's their problem not mine, at least the people in my life know that if I got something to say, I wont hold it back... my phylosophy... like me or don't like...your loss or your gain... I expect to be treated as I treat others... plan and simple. So far, it works well.... Just sometimes (I've learned) it's better to keep your mouth shut at work if you really like your job...lol

Later
--Eric

Comment by Sol McNally Aka : Dmitri Girl on April 21, 2009 at 1:11pm

Communication is the key to all your success in your relationships of any kind.

Comment by Stout on April 21, 2009 at 12:54pm

i agree with that. 6 months is a long time to be undecided about them. im just glad that being as honest as this is a real way to go. ive done the lying thing before and it never works out great. i tried the honesty thing and it works. im getting very close to making my decision tho. thank you for your comments:-)

Comment by Sol McNally Aka : Dmitri Girl on April 21, 2009 at 12:50pm

If your dating that is the whole point is to get to know people better. And like you said. I would suggest telling both of them. Cause the one that runs away is the one that you shouldn't date in my opinion cause if they want your happiness they will not care if your dating someone else. Although. I will say if it goes on for more then 6 months and you can't decide I think you need to stop dating both at the same time. Because that can be emotionally straining on both of them.

Comment by mike on April 21, 2009 at 12:46pm

i don't believe honesty is EVER the best policy!

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